We all like to hang out with our friends in our social circle. But seldom we realize, someone in the group is not the kind of friend we would like to have. These so called fake friends make you feel uncomfortable in every possible ways. So here I am listing the following traits you may observe in your friend circle .It will let you know that there is a so called fake friend trying to mingle with you whom you must avoid.
#1 They will let you down
You will find these kind of friends who by all means will try to bring you down in every possible way. They will demean you in a sarcastic manner, never appreciate you. Even if they appreciate you, it will sound like a mockery or slap on your face in humorous manner. Don’t get fooled by their sense of humour. Strictly avoid these kind of fake friends.
#2 They will invite you to show off their social circle
I am pretty sure you have these kind of friends in your group. These guys will invite you in his/her house on special occasions. When you meet him/her, you get a phlegmatic response as he/she is busy serving the other guests. You will feel neglected as if you are unwanted and went there only to have the food and drinks served to you.
#3 They will call you only you required
These people never call you for months and suddenly call you and make plans to meet you. When you meet them, you find that they needed you to do some of his tasks .You gladly do it and when you come back home , you never get a call back from them for months. They will turn up after months again only to make you do some personal tasks. Never fall in trap of these so called fake friends.
#4 They want to know your current status
These kind of fake friends just call you and show up only to know your current status. If you are successful in life, they will feel jealous and if you are struggling in life, they will laugh at you silently . Maybe in front they will pity you. But deep down their heart they are so happy to see you in pulverising situation. They will not come for your help ever .When you ask for their help, they will make lame excuses to you that they are busy in life although you might have helped them in some point of life.
#5 Show off
Some friends will show off their materialistic part of life . The expensive items they possesses, cars , big houses to make you feel low. They know you can’t afford these stuffs but still show you . Avoid these fake friends at any cost. It will just give you pain.
#6 Jealous
These kind of guys will do bad things for you in every possible way. They cannot see you successful and will try to malign your image in every possible way. They will put negative comments on the social network to make you secluded from your other mutual friends. Jealousy is a heinous trait of human and these fake friends should be avoided immediately.
#7 Fake friends make you feel inferior in front of their near ones
These guys will make you feel inferior in every possible way in front of their parents, siblings, spouse, girlfriend, boyfriend. They will only discuss about the mistakes you did in childhood to them instead of speaking of your talent and good activities in school life. They will make you feel guilty in front of them forcing you to leave their place . These fake friends are common everywhere.
#8 Fake Friends will dump you in the last moment
They will leave you in the last moment when you plan for a trip or some movie show, rock concert . Basically they don’t need you in the trip. They will ask you to come to a trip together but actually they have other friends in their minds instead of you. When you get ready for the trip, they won’t show up for the trip. These are one hell of fake friends.
#9 Fake Friends Exploiting financially
These kind of fake friends are probably the worst of the lot. These guys may initially seem like they are not so financially strong, unable to lead a comfortable life style like yours, living a frugal life. Here’s the twist, don’t get mistaken for these guys. When you lend him/her money and ask to return back in due time, they will disappear. But when you see them hanging with their girlfriend/boyfriend and meet them suddenly in some movie theatre or some restaurant and find that they ignore you. That should be the wake up call for you that the guy/girl has exploited you financially. Had they been in true hardships, rather then spending money on girlfriend/boyfriend, expensive food items, they should work hard day in and day out to lead a healthy life rather than making the fool out of you financially. They will never show their gratitude towards you. Strictly avoid these kind of fake friends.
Conclusion
Overall , you need to be careful in identifying your good friends.Friends are definitely pillar of support but one fake friend or bad company can destroy your social circle. Be sagacious in determining good friends and good people around you.
Wonderful post.
I’ve often found myself caught up and taken advantage of by the wrong people just because I’m too nice to tell them where to go. Specifically, ones who exploit me financially or only contact me if they need something.
I try my utmost to not be that person to anyone as well.
I can understand most of us have come across with these kind of friends. Strictly avoid these kind of friends.
I agree to all of this and I would like to add that fact friends also lie. They either like to you or about you!
You are right Lanae , they also lie .
As someone that has experienced the hardships of many fake friends myself, I agree with your list and find it very accurate. Hopefully this helps some people avoid the fakers.
Yes Rebekah, I guess we all have come across the hardships of many fake friends and people need to avoid them. The only challenge is identifying them in right time.
Great read!!
Thank you Cathy.
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I think being aware of and identifying fake friends is a really important life skill that, sadly, usually only comes from having experienced this. The great thing is, once you can spot them you can then decide what you want to do about it. Great post!
Without experience one cannot identify fake friends. But learning from experience will help you find and avoid the fake friends.Thank you Molly for stopping by.
This is something I have always struggled with. I had always wanted to believe the best in people and do anything for them. This is a great breakdown of what to look out for.
Thank you Daniele for stopping by. Glad to know you liked this article.
These are all so true; too often we dont spot the warning signs until it’s too late! Thank you for sharing these tips on what to look out for 😊
Thank you for stopping by Emily.
Great post; it’s one that I can relate to for sure.
Great post. I am going through a bit of a ‘friendship culling’ at the moment. Its funny how, when you go through a life crisis, you find who your true friends are and realise the ones you’ve been carrying around that dont give you the time of day. Its never easy to do, but we have to walk away from these people, for the sake of our mental health. Thanks for sharing
Exactly Finn. During the phase of life crisis, we identify the fake friends. Thank you for stopping by.
Have to have your guards up and be cautious with who you spend your time around! Agree with all these tips
Yes, we need to cautious .
Yes, I recognize some of these signs as have experienced a few fake friends in my life — thankfully they’re not the majority of people I’ve met but it’s good to be able to spot them when you need to!
Glad to know you are able spot them quickly. Basically people take time to identify these people. Thank you for stopping by.
It’s so disappointing when people only have an interest in me because they need something, and I hate the way they start it as a normal conversation, then drop in what they need from me and then disappear if I can’t do it. I’ve had worse friends than that though, but since I’ve gotten older it’s been less bitchy people and more exploitative. All the had friends are gone from my life now
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Only experiences teach us to avoid these kind of fake friends.Thank you for stopping by.
This post is spot on! I relate to this 100%.
Better to be alone than with a fake friend! Great post.
Exactly Yaya. Strictly avoid these kind of people.
Great post! I’ve found myself surrounded by these types of people and by nature I feel the need to remove myself. Better alone than in bad company.
Hmmm…so maybe that’s why I have those around me who gets all 9 there. Thanks for sharing this, its a nice read 🙂
So sad how many of these people there are in the world! Luckily, it is possible to avoid them : once you know what to look for 🙂 Thanks for sharing!
Good stuff…It’s so important to keep an eye out for red-flags in friendships and to remember to take care of ourselves! True friends are hard to find, but once you do, they are well worth keeping around!
One of the fabulous things about being over 40… you stop caring about fake friends so much, and put a much higher value on a smaller circle of awesome friends!
This was great and so true. It’s time to drop these so-called friends. Great post. Thanks for sharing with us.
Thank you for stopping by Lakisha. Glad you liked the post.
Great post.
I had a bunch of these in my life and i have them the chop almost five years ago. It’s such a hard thing to do but I’d rather have like two great friends than 479964 fake ones! X
Well said Ellie. It’s always good to have few genuine friends than a number of fake friends.
Great post Jamie – some really good points to remember 👍
Thank you Claire for stopping by.
This is all true, people do this and it sucks big time. I’ve been trying to let go of people in my life that don’t seem to care for my company anymore but it’s hard, especially when they’re life long friends of 10+ years.
Sometimes it’s better to stick with people like partners, family, work colleagues. I’ve never had issues with those group of people like I have close friends!
Thank you for the great post!
You made a valid point Katelyn. It’s always better to be with your near and dear ones rather than surrounded by fake people around. Thank you for stopping by.