We all want a better lifestyle, comfort and happiness in life. Life itself is a marathon. Not everyone can live in their own terms. The big mistake is that we tend to follow other people, we want to have the same luxury and comfort as other people. But is it feasible to think in this way? Remember there is a saying the grass is greener on the other side. Don’t think some one is rich doesn’t mean he/she is always leading a happy life. Every person has to face challenges and overcome them. The main thing I wanna say is you can be the boss of your own life if you stop comparing yourself with others. You need to change your life for your own good and that can be done without emulating others. You can definitely change your life for better and the steps are as follows.
#1 Strong focus
If we want our life to be in right direction, we need focus. Our lack of focus leads to anomalies in life. We blame everyone around us. This is just for our own satisfaction. We must accept our fault .Lack of concentration will never help you complete a task. We need to build strong focus at whatever task we do. Staying focussed in life is not an easy task .It requires willpower, determination and indomitable thirst to succeed in life. This is the basic step to change your life for better.
#2 Developing a positive mindset
A positive mindset is all you need to overcome any fear, apprehensions. Life is unpredictable , we cannot live in fear all throughout our life. Developing a positive frame of mind is required to change your life for better. Sometimes we are down in energy and lose hope. It is quite natural we get bogged down at certain time when things go haywire. We need to be positive in our approach, thought process, optimistic in every phase of life. Yes, circumstances sometimes will go against you but remember every cloud has a silver lining.
#3 Stop comparing yourself
As already mentioned in the beginning, it’s in the human nature to compare. We always compare with people , our friends, colleagues on basis of anything.
Who is leading a better life and having a better job ? Why am I not more talented than him? These questions pop in our mind making our life restless. The answer to these questions lies within you. If you stop comparing, your mind will free from these frivolous thoughts. These questions make no sense. Everyone is unique in this world. People have both merits and demerits. Everyone has good times and bad times, everyone faces success and failures.
Some people are fortunate to find love and get married early, some people are not fortunate enough to find love. Some people are successful in their jobs, careers , some are not. That does not mean people not fortunate enough to find love or find successful careers in life are losers. It is just that they should not lose hope and have to wait for right time and opportunity. Patience rewards and definitely they will be rewarded at some point in life if they don’t lose hope and work hard on their weakness.
#4 Disciplined life style:
Disciplined life style is a must to make your life better. Displicine depends on how you define your life style. Discipline doesn’t always mean you need to put up an alarm clock and get up early in the morning.The thing that matters is how much productive you are at the end of the day.A late riser can be more productive than the person waking up early in the morning. If a certain life style makes you more productive , you follow that provided it should not be inimical to your health. Definitely sleeping early at night and waking up early makes a person healthy and productive. But not all cannot follow the fixed disciplined routine to change his/her life. Everyone must follow the lifestyle suited for his life and work and stringently follow to real happiness and prosperity in life.
#5 Move On from Your Past
In order to lead a happy life and change it for better, one must move on from his/her past. Whatever past you may have, sweet or bitter, you need to keep it aside and start a new journey coz life itself is journey and teach you new lessons. Pondering around bad memories won’t take you anywhere. Bad memories will only give you pain.I know the bad memories cannot be forgotten but think it as a bad dream and simply move on in life.
#6 Acceptance of failure:
Acceptance of failure is very hard to digest when you put so much effort in something you thought you deserved more than anybody. The hard truth is that not everyone is destined to achieve whatever he or she wants to achieve.When you fail in the process, you think you world is doomed but that’s not the fact my deal friend, life is all about choices and derive powerful beliefs to achieve success in life.Successful people in the world always have failed in their intial attempts miserable.Unless you fail, you won’t learn from your mistakes.
#7 Healthy habits:
One must develop heathy habits to feel motivated . It can be exercise, yoga , meditation, dancing , learning music ,cooking and so many other things. The habits will change your life and make your life productive. Eliminate bad habits and inculcate these good and healthy habits to maintain a balanced lifestyle
#8 Life goals :
Setting up life goals is necessary to make a successful change in your life. You need to set up life goals and have proper vision to achieve them in life. This will change your life in a positive way.
#9 You can’t keep everyone happy around you
This is very important . You must enjoy your life to the fullest and at the same time don’t expect everyboady to shower praises upon you. There will always be people who will feel jealous of your success, achievement and never appreciate your good deeds, hard work. You should never heed on their discussion and don’t try hard to make them happy.Have your own trustable social circle with whom you can share your happiness, sadness and lead your life.
#10 Love Unconditionally
You should love your near and dear ones who have always been there for you throughout your life – during your success and also failure .Never hurt their feelings ever.They can be your parents,friends,teachers , philosophers, your guru , anybody who has played a pivotal role to shape your life for your good.
Conclusion
Finally it all depends on the individual, how he /she want to change his/her life for better. The above mentioned points can be guideline. If you have any thoughts on this article, you can share in the comments section.
I really enjoyed your post! Very informative and inspiring. Thanks! Melissa Damiani | Gratitude Grace Glamour
Glad to know you found this article inspiring Melissa.
This post was great! I really need to work on some of these things, especially not comparing myself to others 🙂
Glad you found those tips helpful.
This is a great post with tips l often need to remember in my own life. I’m still, in relative terms, fairly early on in many personal life changes and at times l can be my own worst enemy by over comparing myself to others or by trying to please everyone. Thank you for such a well written nudge to keep me on track!
Exactly my friend. Glad you liked the post.
It can be so easy to get hung up on past disappointments or struggles but it’s so important to learn from them and not be brought down. I love the inspiring vibe to this post 🙂
You are right Ellie. Learning from past disappointments or struggles is difficult but necessary to move on.
Awesome post! I am really into positivity and self development so I appreciate your post
Thank you for this one. I always struggle with my productivity, something I’m trying to work on, but I can’t help but find myself getting distracted by menial things!
This happens with everyone Ribby. Glad you liked the post.
Absolutely golden points stated here. I’d have also given the same tips for creating a better life. Brilliant post x
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Thank you Shannon for stopping by.
Such a brilliant post! So inspiring!! Thank you for sharing it!
Thank you Yaya for stopping by.
The biggest problem I have is comparing myself (especially in my blogging journey) to others who aren’t in the same stage of their life as me. This is a fantastic post – thanks so much for sharing it!
We often do the mistake in comparing with others. Thank you Megan for stopping by.
Great advice! Discipline, accepting failure and accepting that we can’t make everyone happy are probably the hardest ones today. In a world where everything and everyone seems to be so perfect and we are bombarded with easy and fast and fake solutions to everything, accepting who you are and who you truly want to become but also the effort it will take to get there are difficult tasks.
Thank you for sharing!
Very well said Anda. Glad to know you found the post useful.
Excellent article – love the positive but also proactive focus! SMART goals!
Totally agree with you! We can better even without comparing ourselves to others. We all have own road to travel in life!
Absolutely John, we all have own road to travel in life.
I really believe positive mindset can move mountains. That’s one thing I am constamtly working on. It changed me life. It healed me from anxiety and depression. And healthy habits are so important, they can definitely make our lives better in every aspect. 💗
Glad you liked the article. Very well said Monica. Positive mindset is the key.
Great stuff here that I wholeheartedly agree with. Discipline is one of the most important elements to a successful and prosperous life, so I hammer that home more than anything else in my own writings. A little discipline can transform anyone’s life.
Looking forward to seeing more of your posts!
Really an amazing post thanks for sharing this I really needed this motivation today
#5 Move On from Your Past and #6 Acceptance of failure, I think are the biggest keys to having a happy life.
Exactly Sarah. These two points are vital in changing one’s life for better.
Love this post. Such great tips and so many need to read this. Thank you for sharing
These are all such good tips for making positive changes in your life. Moving on from your past and setting goals are some of the most important. Thanks for sharing.
I think for me it’s took many years of trial and error to heed point like these. I’m still working on many. 👍
Thank you for sharing these reminders about the importance of focusing on these various areas. For example, remembering that we can’t make everyone happy around us is a big one for me.
I really need to stop comparing myself to others thanks for this informative post
Good post with fundamental life-giving perspectives. I would only say that moving on from the past may not always be the healthiest until you have dealt with its negative impact on your life. You may not be able to move on to new lessons if you keep making the same old mistakes.